How to solve a relationship problem? Do it in 3 steps!

Relationship problems are probably one of the most difficult problems to solve! How many times did you find yourself facing the wall with the impression that everything was lost? How many times have you said, "It's too late, I'll never find a solution! "?

Why do we sometimes seem helpless in the face of a relationship problem? How to overcome this feeling and find a solution to solve it?

Here is a 3-step method to use whenever a problem of this type arises ...

Step # 1: Have the right mindset

The first thing to do when you find yourself stuck with a relationship problem is to objectively verify what state of mind you are. And I insist on the word objectively! The next step is to reformulate the problem, you must be in a positive state of mind to move forward. Whatever you do, if you are in a negative state of mind, you will not move forward. Worse, you will sink into a vicious circle that will be increasingly difficult to get out. Keep in mind that any problem has a solution but, most of the time, only you can find the one that suits you the most.

To be in the right state of mind, be sure of two things:
For each problem there are several solutions;
If you think that a problem is unresolved, then you must reconsider it.
Moreover, as Albert Einstein said: "A problem without a solution is a problem that is ill-posed. "

And it is thanks to this positive state of mind that you will be able to put into practice the advice of the following paragraphs ...

Step 2: Reconsider the problem
You will have to think calmly about this problem. For this you must start by thinking alone to understand how you got there. Then, and only then, you can seek advice from someone you trust. Seeking advice from someone you trust is important because that person will have an objective look at the situation. Try to choose someone who does not know the other person in relation to the problem.

The ideal would be to ask a complete stranger!

You already have your own opinion on the problem and you need the objective opinion of someone who has no knowledge of the problem. When explaining the situation, take care to be as objective as possible. It is at this moment that the reflection work that you have done just before will be necessary. It will have allowed you to calm down and take a step back from the problem to try to consider it objectively. Listen carefully to what people will tell you and use your critical mind to understand the situation.

Step 3: Make contact with the other person
Thanks to the first two steps, you took a step back. You have identified more precisely the part of responsibility of each one. In most cases, neither person is white or black. So you surely have every reason to blame you.

You will have to contact the person again! And it's often the most difficult step! How many people have remained angry without speaking for years? If you do not make the choice to contact someone you care about and do not do it, no one will do it for you! You will have to take your courage with both hands and reconnect with this person to expose your thoughts. You will help him to reconsider the problem as you have done, and you will explain to him the different conclusions that you have had.

If it is, this person did not dare to contact you again and everything will be fine!

Above all do not go upset or trying to get the other person to apologize. The first two steps have normally allowed you to engage in reconciliation with the right mindset and taking the time to reflect on the situation. Do not ruin all the work you have done because of the emotions that could emerge in the course of this meeting!

What if the other person does not want to hear anything?
Although the tips I give you in this article have proven themselves over and over again, be aware that we are not living in a world where everything is going on all the time as we would have liked.

If despite all your efforts the person does not want to hear anything you will have to learn how to live with this problem, which may not be one anymore! You have done everything to solve it, you do not have to regret!

How to accept living with a feeling that does not suit you? How to admit that a person does not necessarily want to go in your direction? The answers to these questions deserve an article on their own to be detailed.

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It's your turn !
Today, the move to action is obvious! Are you in cold with someone? Follow these three steps and try to be reconciled with this person! Take down this wall that has been built between you and that brings only negative in your two lives!