Relationship goals: 8 things you should expect for your relationship

Lorsque l’on est à la recherche d’une relation sérieuse ou lorsque l’on débute une histoire d’amour, il peut-être difficile de comprendre ce qui est raisonnable de demander et d’exiger de son ou sa future partenaire.

Les attentes spécifiques de chacun créent parfois des conflits lorsqu’elles sont différentes. Il existe néanmoins certaines attentes qui ne sont pas démesurées et qui, au contraire, peuvent aider à construire une relation durable avec son ou sa partenaire.

Affection
Asking for affection is a normal thing when you invest in a love story. Some prefer to show their attachment through words or small gestures on a daily basis; others wish that it does not translate into physical affection (cuddling, kissing, holding hands on the street, etc.). With his or her partner, one must be able to find common ground so that the demonstrations of affection are suitable for both people.

Compassion
When you start a relationship, you sometimes have the feeling of being part of a team. We encourage each other; and we support each other in difficult times. Thus, it is normal to expect from his or her partner a minimum of compassion when certain difficulties of life arise. The relationship should be a space where each of the partners can feel free to go bad, but also where everyone can benefit from the support of the other. It is not a question of asking to share the pain, but of being at least listening to it in difficult moments.

Respect
We would tend to think that this is obvious, that respect between two people is essential for a relationship - love or not - to work, and yet, the longer the relationship lasts, the more respect is an element on which we must be alert (s). Indeed, after months or years of relationship, when each spouse knows each other by heart and does not take more tweezers to talk to each other, it is possible to fall into excesses that ultimately damage the relationship. During any communication, conflict or other, each partner must be able to show respect for each other.

Consideration
Each of our actions and decisions may affect our partner in one way or another. Thus, it is important to be considerate by taking into consideration your expectations. This does not mean saying yes to everything and accepting the impossible, but everyone must be able to show that the opinion of the other is important.

Time
Each relationship is based on time spent together. Time makes it possible to share strong moments and thus to build a common history. If your partner has very little or no time to spend, ask yourself, how much of your own time are you willing to spend to make this relationship work? There should be no imbalance between two partners in terms of the time spent on the relationship.

Of interest
Imagine a relationship where your partner has little or no interest in your activities, passions, or even your opinions. This may seem impossible, but some people start a romantic relationship with the sole purpose of not being alone, so they show no particular interest in their partner. For a relationship to continue, it is necessary for everyone to really be interested in the other.

Intimacy
Intimacy is something different from sex. It means here: learning from each other as the relationship progresses. Having the privilege of sharing memories or secrets that no one else knows, makes the relationship evolve to another level. Indeed, these are elements that we tend to keep for ourselves because they make us vulnerable. That's what it's about when you talk about intimacy in a couple.

From generosity
A truly generous partner (s) enjoys helping and supporting the person with whom he or she is in a relationship. This does not mean material or financial support, it can only be a moral support. The key is to give as much as possible to receive a return equivalent. It must work in both directions, otherwise the imbalance generated will not build a lasting relationship.

Having expectations of one's partner does not mean that one is too demanding. Indeed, keeping this list in mind and realizing what expectations you hold most will allow you to open the dialogue when it is needed.