9 signs that reveal that you are not in love but simply emotionally dependent

Everyone seeks, desires, needs love, and this search for "the right person" can sometimes take a lifetime. Many people get carried away when they meet someone for the first time, in passion and in the desire to make this connection.

Ignoring all the warning signs, they focus on the positives in the relationship and interpret the small signs as the signs that indicate they have found their true love.

It's good to see the best in people when you meet them for the first time, but idealizing a person or relationship can be dangerous.

Very often, people end up getting into relationships because it provides them with validation and self-esteem rather than a single emotional connection or connection with that particular person.

We can be in relationships with people we do not really know for weeks, months, years and we are happy to stay with them simply because we lack emotional independence. How do you know if you are in love or just emotionally addicted?

Here are the 9 warning signs that could make you see your relationship again.

1. YOU COUNT ON HIM / HER FOR THE ESTIMATE OF SELF

You desire the affection, the attention and the approval of your other half. Whether it's a compliment on your appearance or the way you work, you need this validation. If you do not get it, you may be upset and have many doubts.

2. YOU BELIEVE SINCERELY THAT YOUR LIFE WOULD HAVE NO SENSE WITHOUT HIM / HER

You live in fear that someday something will make your partner happy or that he / she will decide to end your relationship. You can not imagine living without him / her and you will never recover from losing him.

3. YOU ARE JALOUX (SE)

Whether with friends, family, and even colleagues, you hate when your partner spends time with someone else and become extremely jealous. You can create problems to prevent him from leaving or cause arguments when he returns. It's not for fear of infidelity; You may be jealous that your partner has taken his mother for a day trip or that he / she has given a favor to a friend. You just want to have his attention constantly.

4. ALL IS IN THE APPEARANCE

There are things about your partner that make you doubt your relationship, but as long as your friends and family appreciate it, everything is fine. That speaks to you? If so, reconsider why your partner's appearance matters more than he / she REALLY looks like.

5. YOU HAVE NO FEAR

You are afraid that your partner will leave you for someone else and be alone. This leads to possessiveness and the need to keep one's attention all the time. Most people have this fear at some point, but it's a step forward. To each person he / she mentions or meets, you fear that it will take him away from you.

6. YOU COUNT ON HIM / HER FOR VALIDATION

If the opinion of the only person who matters is your other half, including yours, this should worry you. You must not have more confidence in his opinion than in yours. Personal validation must always be above any other opinion. Despite what you think, you know each other better.

7. YOU SHOULD LIKE ALL THE TIME

Claiming the plans just so that you can watch TV together could be cute from time to time, but if it's every time that's a problem. Everyone needs space and it is a little worrying that you constantly abandon others just because your partner wants it. Or, if you do it because you can not stand your partner's absence, it's also a warning sign.
8. YOU ARE ALWAYS TOGETHER

You had hobbies, groups of friends, and activities before your relationship, but now you do not have any of that anymore. You gave up everything so you could spend all your time together. The distance from the relationships you used to value is also another sign.

9. YOU WANT TO CHANGE

If you look at your partner or relationship as something you need to improve or change before you are happy, consider why you are with it.

If you have to transform it, you may need a completely new person.