15 things you should never tolerate in a relationship

In love, you have to know how to be respected and observe some simple rules not to sink into an unhealthy and potentially traumatic relationship. Here are 15 things that should never be tolerated in a relationship.
To run a relationship under the best thermes and the two people involved feel good about it, there are some rules to follow. We must also know what we want, what we deserve, and have the courage to express it and claim it. If the person with whom you have chosen to share a small part of the road is wrong in one way or another, you must act: either by trying to solve the problem in the slightest cases, or by taking his cliques and his slaps and making camp fast done well.

1.Physical or psychological violence

Physical, verbal and psychological abuses should never be accepted or trivialized, regardless of who they come from. Even in anger, even when "words go beyond thought," even on a bloody stroke while "normally I never do that", these are serious acts that must never be accepted. If it is sometimes difficult to admit when you are in a tumultuous relationship or if you are under the control of someone, you should never hesitate to ask for help, or even contact the authorities.

2. The threats

Regardless of the degree of the threat, if your partner regularly tries to win the case by starting his sentences with "If you do not do X, I ...", that's a bad sign. Same if it prevents you from doing things by threatening you with retaliation if you do not obey. Or if he is blackmailing at break.

3. Sex under pressure

If your partner puts pressure on you to perform a sexual act that does not interest you or makes you feel uncomfortable, do not give in to his entreaties and his various persuasive techniques. The secret to a healthy relationship, especially with respect to sexuality, is a balanced mix of trust and respect - and if you want to get something you do not want to do, it becomes manipulation and it's unhealthy.

Same if you do not want to have sex someday, whatever the reason. Someone who continues to want to have sex with another person who is clearly not consenting and closed to the idea is an unhealthy person. Normally, we should not be thrilled by the sight of someone who says no, who balks and who quits (unless it's a game, but that's another question that is settled between two willing partners with clear rules).

4. The blame on the physical

If your partner repeats that you have a problem with weight, skin, that your haircut does not suit you, or that you should dress like that, you can kick it out.

5. The secrets

There is a difference between having a secret garden, a life next to your partner, personal stories and hiding everything from your partner. If it starts to become suspicious and it smells like scam, it's probably a scam. Ditto if in history, you are the secret and he keeps you only for him without ever including you in his life or even mention your existence.

6. Spying

To spying on someone's phone or computer is a violation of trust between two people, an invasion of privacy and a lack of respect. If your actions are studied, monitored and verified, you are in an unhealthy relationship. Here again, trust is essential for a couple to hold and flourish. By practicing coping, we create a stifling environment, full of suspicion and betrayal, and it's frankly not fun to live.

7. The rejection of friends

That your partner does not want to spend his life with your friends is one thing - and that's understandable. But he always refuses to accompany you in your outings, your parties or even to be present when you receive, while you are interested in his friends, it's still pretty average. We certainly do not have to mix everything, but it's still cool to be able to share things with all the people we love at the same time.

8. The rejection of the family

There, the same. Step-parents are not always a gift and yes, the Sunday lunch in the family, it's pissing, there are days when we really do not want, especially if we do not have much in common with them but respect, it's done. When we get into someone's life, we have to take a big part of what goes with it - and that means the family too. Even if, of course, we are also not obliged to meet around a roast every Sunday of the whole year for the rest of his life, otherwise it sucks.

9. Choking
Does your partner choke on you, try to see you and touch you all the time, be with you at all times? It may be touching at first, but it soon becomes unbearable. It is often symptomatic of a lack of confidence (in itself or in one's partner, or both), and rarely motivated by the simple desire to spend time with someone. Being a couple is nice, but it's still a story between two different people, not a body transplant that condemns two individuals to live together for eternity. It is important to keep a great deal of independence, even if you are very much in love, or else you will run away from the object of your affection.

10. Constant interruptions
Whoever says a couple, says dialogue, says exchange, says equity. Exchanges are done on two equal basis, and if you are constantly interrupted in your speaking time to be belittled, contradicted, corrected or rebuked, it has no interest. We can not grow anything in this kind of environment. If he needs time to exist, let him exist alone in his corner.

11. If he does not take you seriously

Since we all have different sensitivities, we are sometimes confronted with causes that speak to us more than others. If there are some in your principles that stand out more than others, that you are very sensitive when certain topics are discussed or that you campaign outright for one or more causes, that is normal. What is less so is that you are the object of mockery, insults and cynical thoughts of your partner when you address these topics.
If a cause is dear to your heart, if a subject, a discipline, a TV series itself, is important to you, and you refuse to respect that sensitivity, it is a lack of respect and maturity. As a result, both pass his way.

12. The slut shaming
Is He trying to blame you for the number of partners you had before starting this relationship? Is He commenting on your "provocative" outfits? Is He asking to cover yourself in public so you do not catch the eye of nasty predators? Just let him go away!?

The number of sexual partners does not define the "purity" or integrity of a person, and the dress does not justify the behavior of the outside perverts. If you want to be sexy, comfortable, and feel good in your body and outfit, it's a very good thing and it should not be the subject of derogatory remarks.

13. Refusal to share chores

We've been fighting for equality for years, and it's also true in the home. You are not the best of anyone and it is not up to you to take all the boring roles on the pretext that you grew up in a society that only repeats the absurdities of our ancestors. The housework is not sexed, and in a couple, we even share the tips.

14. Selfishness in bed

You deserve to be pleased as much as your partner in bed, there is no reason that everything is focused around his pleasure, to the detriment of yours. If He refuse to take care of you and allow you to take advantage of your ability to multiply orgasms, it's not worth it. The pleasure is not one way.

15. The sickly jealousy
If you can not even talk to another man without your guy poking a lead and becoming red with anger (or green jealousy), it will soon become unlivable. If he can not trust you, the relationship will never blossom. Ditto if you get along well with one of your ex with whom everything has become platonic for a long time or you go away in the evening without him. If he is convinced that you are going to flee with the first male coming, that's his problem, not yours.

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